i have learned many things related to parenting such as the power of love, fogiveness, importance of toerance. the most important is how to response to the reality that will not meet our expectation in relationship.
Assalamualaikum Madam :), I do gained many new informations from your parenting class especially in family matters. The most unforgettable information is about the power of being vulnerable. The first time I heard about it, it hits me hard as I am afraid to be different from people. I do take people's perception about me seriously. I always feel insecure to be in public. But after you tell us about the vulnerability, it somehow opens my mind to brave and confident about myself. There are a lot more informations which would not be enough to post them here. I end this comment with "THANK YOU MADAM"
Assalamualaikum Madam, from your lectures, I've learned so many things especially on how to prepare myself for future needs. I realize that it is very important to believe in whatever Allah's plan for us. Sometimes, when we were too focus achieving our goals and plans, we tend to forget to put Allah first in everything we do. In searching of desired partners, child, and future life, we have to beutify ourselves first. Beautify here means improving ourselves becoming a better person. This is because our partner is the reflection of ourselves. Last but not least, "The power of vulnerabality" really motivates me to be the best version of myself. Thankyou Madam Hayati for sharing all your experiences and made the parenting class very interesting :')
The most beautiful thing that I get is constantly reciting a surah, Al-waqiah. Allah fulfilled my needs from the ways that I have never imagined it. Besides, I learned to see marriage in different colours. Marriage must be entered with knowledge and preparations. Furthermore, educating children in early age is important to shape their characters in future. It opened my eyes that becoming a parent is not an easy task. I realized that finding a good partner is so much important because he is not only become my soul mate but he will also become a father to my children.
In this class, I learned a lot about how to deal with relationship before and after marriage. I remembered well the first story madam told us, such a great illustration of ‘the right one will come at the right time’, that story did inspire me a lot. Then, madam taught us a lot about how to be a good partner, a good parent to children, how to handle problems that occured among family members and finally financial management. Those are such important knowledge for all of us
Assalamualaikum..Hai Madam Norhayati.. So far I learned a lot of things. For example what should I do to be a good daughter good mother and also good Muslimah. I love all the things you shared in class. I also understand what means by good mother what love means. but basically I think for now marriage is something that I'm not ready yet. I'm not good enough yet still have many things to learn and discover. You always give good advice to us. You make us dream what kind of person we want to be, what kind of family we want in future. Love is greatest thing. We learn to love ourselves first before we can love others. Love is passion. Not all people feel the power of love. Lastly, I learned a lot of things from this class and it was such wonderful experience to learn something that in shaa Allah all of us will gone through it.
Assalamualaikum.. Hai Madam Norhayati.. I learned a lot of things in the class. For example how to become a good daughter good future mother and good Muslimah.. Basically all the things you shared give a lot of benefits to us. You teach us to dream about what kind of family we want in future what kind of children we what and also what characteristics of soulmate that we want. There are a lot of things and stories you shared that I had learned such as what it is love actually? what love can do with our life? Love is passion. We need love ourselves first before we can give love to others. I also learned how to manage wealth.
Greetings and salutations. I have learnt so many things from the Parenting class. Of course, the main reason of taking this course is to prepare us to be good parents in the future. So, I'm just going to highlight my three favourite values or lessons that I myself have obtained from the lecture. First and foremost, I realised that it is necessary to have common sense as it is the most essential part in order to deal with other people. In this case, it applies to the case of dealing with our own future kids. That involves our thoughts management. For instance, it is important to look at WHY this and that thing happens instead of HOW this and that thing happens. In other words, having common sense helps us think more rationally, besides stopping us from choosing the wrong decision. Other than that, it also helps us to not be such narrow-minded kind or person. Thus, I hope I will have that much of common sense sooner or later. Secondly, good parents always listen to their kids. It does not matter what the issue is, good parents must always give much attention to the kids. This is to avoid the kids any feelings of being isolated, making them feel like they are losing their reasons to live. I find that giving attention is the most crucial thing ever of being a parent, as I have seen and known some friends and even my own cousin who are the products of broken families. I really feel sorry and always hope not to do the same to my kids like their parents do it to them. Eventually, anything we see with our hearts is something that we learn the most. Some parents only listen and do nothing. To me, as the parents, we should help them to think on how to deal with the problems that they have, even just a little because something is better than nothing. Last but not least, having strictness. Having strictness is necessary, but must be according to situations. Why? Because in some situations, strictness cannot really be applied as it can cause our kids to be rebellious, making them to lose respect to us, and that is why there are many cases of teenagers running away from home. As an example, setting curfews is a good way of being strict, but avoiding them from connecting or interacting with their friends is a huge mistake. They need time with their mates for amusement and additional fun. From that also, it can help them to get more experiences and more knowledge from their friends but in this matter, parents need to always monitor the contents, of course. I have a lot of other things that I learnt from your class, but those three mentioned above are what concern me the most. I hope to be a good parent and a best friend to my kids in the future. To sum up for the whole classes, I love your style of teaching. Thank you and God bless you, Madam :)
My name is Mohammad Syahiran Bin Mohd Rafi. Matric no. 1624537.
First of all, from what I've learnt from parenting class on this semester, I will list it up according to week by week. For the first week, we were asked for why we want to learn about parenting. Then we were taught about a very beautiful love story of Madam's friend. It's all about fate or 'jodoh'. Whoever we love or no matter how much we love someone, if she/he is not meant for us, she/he will not be married to us. Next, on the following week, we were asked to list up the characteristic that we wanted to have on our future spouse. In the end, no matter how good or how bad our spouse is, try to accept them sincerely regardless of their flaws, their disadvantages, and their disabilities. However, we can change our self to be a better partner in future. With enough support from each other, we will make some ways to a dream. We also were assigned a task to make a journal of Subh congregational prayer throughout this semester. Furthermore, we were taught about the importance of Subh congregational prayer and how it affect our life as a better parents in the future. In the next class, we learnt about 'What is love?' and why we need love in our life. For me, I think that love is everything. Everyone needs love to live a happy life.
Besides, on the other week, we learnt about vulnerable and how vulnerability can affect the relationship in a family and how to cope with it. Just before our mid semester break, we were assigned a task to be an agent of love. We learn on how to be a good child to our parents and how to spread love among our family by doing something that is extraordinary from usual. Then, on the next class, we learn about the characteristic of child that we want to have in future. We learn how to get a child that we have dream of by being such a good parent. Moreover, we learnt about how reading can improve everyone's life. We learn that we should teach and expose our child to reading even in their early ages. Last but not least, we learn about financial management and our dream life. Everyone have their own dreams. But, do we good in managing our financial? Sometimes we're confused about our needs and wants. There goes our silly mistakes in our life which lead to a lot of debts and problems.
I have learnt that the duty of a wife is to entertain her husband and make him happy. Cooking, cleaning, and mending clothes for the household are just a supplementary duty. It is essential to become an agent of love in our family. When we share the love with our family, the love will become bigger and eventually become contagious. This will influence other members in the family to cherish and give back the love, and thus becoming a more loving person. Also, I have learnt that it is not wrong to become vulnerable. Vulnerability allows people to become truthful to who they are and makes them beautiful. Therefore, despite being imperfect, it is necessary for us to embrace our children’s vulnerability. Every parent is encouraged to raise children to enjoy reading. This is because during childhood, they tend to grasp and acquire knowledge, particularly language, more easily. Furthermore, Allah SWT has command mankind to read, as being mentioned in the Qur'an, surah Al-‘Alaq, verse 1. It is compulsory to have a quest for knowledge as knowledge helps us become closer to Allah SWT. In addition, family budget and money management are among the parent's responsibility. In order to have a healthy financial management, it is important to spend less and save more from what we earn.
Assalamualaikum Madam Norhayati, I am Nur Zahidah Binti Zamri (1622224). I learned many things from your class and one of them is 'Jodoh'. Jodoh is best planned by Allah. We need to understand the meaning completely because it will not disappoint us if we do not get married to the one that we truly love. Besides that, madam have also taught us that married life is not as easy as it seems. Therefore, before we enter the life of marriage, we need to prepare ourselves in order to be a better wife and learn ho to manage our finance as it is very important in our life. Most of the things in this world are materialistic and money is very important in life. Madam also taught us to be vulnerable in a good way as it can help develop our confidence. Other than that, Madam also had change my mind about 'polygamy'. Before this, I could not accept it because to me, it conflicted women's rights. However, after learning about it in your class, I knew that polygamy may not be accepted by all women but it can be done and I need to accept the reality that nowadays the population of women s more than men and thus, polygamy is one of the solutions to help reduce this problem.I also learned how to be a good parent, as you mentioned before a critical period on children is the best time to make them capture another language as they are easy to accept all things, thus I will use those periods to teach them on reading as reading is something that need to developed from small to make it is as a hobby. There be might some challenging will occur during that time, that makes us be more patient. There are many other things that I have learned in your class, but overall to be a good parents and wife, I need to be prepared physically and mentally as married is something that we need to do it together with our husband and knowledge is something that is valuable in all particular things, thus I need to start all the preparation to be a good wife from now. Thank you.
What i have learnt in at least 100 words firstly is the fundamentals of parenting. Some of the basic fundamentals are love and responsibility. There are so many fun stuff and sometimes there are some hard reality i learned from the experience and inspirarion from strangers being shared in the class and i hope to be a good parent in the future. Many moral value i have learned such as to be a positive person and always be ready to face any hurdles in life. I also learned that our spouse is chosen by god and we must pray that we get a good spouse. By bettering ourself first, only then we can help bettering our familiy members. I also learned to be a loving family member and to show my love to my parent more often.
Assalamualaikum madam, my matric number is 1625274. At the first place, I think that our class will be another class just like leadership class where we need to do presentation on topic given by the lecturer. However, when I go through the class, my first expectation was totally wrong. In this class, I learnt a lot of thing, but the most important is, I learnt that, if we want such a kind or good value person to be in our life, we the one that need to be that type of person first. For example, if we want to have a good spouse, we ourselves need to be the one that can be the good spouse. If we want to have the good children, we ourselves also need to be a good child to our parents. I also realized that marriage is not that easy as we think before, marriage means that we need to face a new phase in our life where many things will change. Marriage not only come with happiness, but also responsibility as a wife or husband and also as a parent. Thank you madam for open our eyes to think about our life in the future.
Let me start my comments with my first impression of this course. At first, I thought that this course offers joyful and happiness until the end but instead after following up with the classes, I feel that this course is a major eye opener for me. In the first class, you ask for us the brothers to perform daily Subuh congregational prayer at the nearest mosque or musolla. The last time I could do back-to-back Subuh prayer at the mosque was like during my SPM years and foundation studies. Then I thought that it should be easy enough for me to do so as I’ve been there before but the reality is far too hard for me to keep the consistency going. Then when my inner thought knocks, “Can I be a good parent in the future if my prayers are not top-notch?”. Looking at my daily schedule also does not represent me as a really good parent as I always stay up late at night playing games, lack of performing good deeds, not pious enough, and other things that not set me as an exemplary to my future children. Teenagers nowadays often sees that marriage is what they want to seek first but your lecture reminds me that there are still much more preparations to make in working towards that phase of life. You have to bear the responsibility to foster your children, to shorten up the gaps with them, organizing family finance, build up an Islamic-based family, I don’t know what the future holds for me, how to cope with family problems, choosing a life partner, until at some point I felt that it is best to keep being single until the end of time so that we could not have to worry on bearing those responsibilities. At the same time, I don’t know whether I can bear the responsibilities in the future or not. During the last class about the husband that taking care of his wife until the end of her coma life, I felt that “Can I be like him? Do I have the strength to witness or to handle all of these?”. More ultimately, “Can I lead them towards Jannah?”. In the end, being a parent is a very hard task for everyone to bear its consequences and requires lots of knowledge on preparing to become one but keep in mind that it is possible for all of us to become the good ones. At my current state it is impossible for me to become one but thanks to you, your teachings and experiences I got to realize it before I could become one and I need to work out on it. And also my apologies that I did not participate enough in your class because I’m a little bit shy to talk in front of the class or to verbally describe something but to make it up I will remember and also will always be indebted to you for the rest of my life. "Pray for us Madam" - Thariq 1621175
Assalamualaikum wbt. Bismillahirrahmanirrahim... Praise be to Allah, my whole semester 5 was went well. I just want to share my interesting University subject that my friend and I were learned. It was Family management and Parenting. Honestly, this subject was very interesting and good for us to learn. For the first time I attend the class, my first expression when my lecturer for this subject, Madam Hayati is very sporting, funny, and motherly and I was enjoyed her teaching. For me this parenting class very different from my core subject. This class always motivated me. I don’t know why. This class also make me want to change myself to be a better person now and for the future too. From this family management and parenting class, I got many things. First, the true person that meant to us is by Allah. We will found the right person when time is arrived. The person that we love, it doesn’t mean that she/he is for us. If she/he is meant for us by Allah, in shaa Allah it will be. Don’t worry. Believe in Allah. Next, my lecturer also teach us for be the the good wife and husband in future. Actually, to live happily, the husband and wife must complete each other, understand each other, accept the good and bad thing in each other and always help each other when in difficulties. Besides, from this class also, my lecturer was teach us how to teach our future children to enjoy in reading. For me, it is really important to teach our children to interest in reading. We must teach them to read in early of their age. The interested story book is actually good for the children. It will make them to more interesting in reading and make them more confident in their future life. Furthermore, teach the children speaking English and know the English word in early age also important. Hence, for me this Family Management and Parenting subject is very important and good for university student to make a better parent in future. I want to thanked to my lecturer because teach us for this subject in enjoyable way. In shaAllah I will never forget what you had teach to me and my friend because it is very valuable for our future. Thank you madam !! NURHIDAYAH BT ARIFIN
Along the class, ive learnt a lot of thing that ive never really thought of. Many of youngsters like me only ever think about the fun part of being married and the excitement of having cute mini -me. Often, too high expectations are put in the partner and also the kids when we are nothing close to the benchmark we are setting. Now, I believed that to get the traits that I want in my husband and kids, I need have that first. Being in your class is really an eye opener for me on what to expect in the future. The best part is that you did balanced the lesson on husband and wife’s relationship as well as the kids’ needs. The session ive cherished the most is when you told us about your life journey, your struggle and your private life as well. Thank you for being so passionate in each of the class (I can see it from your eyes:P). I prayed that ill be a good parent in the future, and if I do inshaa allah, ill pray for you to get all the pahala you deserved for being one of the cause why, inshaa allah��
Fathini Aqilah Bt Adnan 1628210 Parenting class I learn a lot from this particular class. There is one topic madam discuss in class that grab my attention and give impact to me which is raising children to enjoy reading. As we all know that reading is one of the best way for children to learn and gain knowledge. It also helps kids learn how to speak and language. Nowadays, kids love to play with games in the gadgets instead of reading. For them, videos and games in the apps are more interesting than reading. They might have problems to capture and understand words if they are not encourage to read. Parent must encourage kids to read since they are small so that they used to the environment and make read as one of their hobbies. Encourage them to read as many as they playing games. This topic also make me realize the importance of reading. I used to read a lot when I am young. However, as I get older, I spend lots of time with gadgets scrolling the media social and watching dramas therefore I did not read much. I become a person that lack of general knowledge and vocabulary. How I want to be a parent that encourage her children to read if I did not read myself, right? I hope that I will read more and enjoy it more than social media and I hope that I can be a good parent to my kids. Thank you madam for everything :).
I started to realize that it is extremely essential for our future children on early exposure on reading activity since their golden age (aka below than 3 years). They, the child during this age, are like sponge, in which they are able to absorb easily new things such as simple new words, simple new language, simple new term as well as ready to take and learn something new. If the kids does not get an early exposure at early stage, later on, when they grow up, they would probably detest reading activity to the fullest. The worst scenario is when they start to hate when the books are in their sight. Thus, it will make they tend to avoid books every single time. The worst is, they solely started to read only when being forcefully asked by. I indeed do realize that nowadays, not much bookworms we can see among children. Not to put all lame on the parents, as most of books are quite costly. Most of them are above rm10. To get them hype about the books aka reading activity, they need to started with easy stage first, in accordance with their ages. Less wordy, less phrase, more color, more picture first, not straightly bombarded them with one paragraph essay. Such content will put the burden on their shoulder so that it is better for them to avoid reading at all cost. they would bear in their mind that reading is extremely hard and thus, their love towards books are rapidly faded form time to times.
بسم الله الرحمن اارحيم الحمدالله I’m grateful to be in this class with Madam Norhayati as our instructor. During the first class, Madam already gave a task to all the students. For brothers, they need to perform subuh prayer congregational at masjid while for sisters, we need to choose a surah from Quran and be familiar with that surah and memorize if possible. The best is when we know the meaning of the surah because when we taddabur a surah, the feelings toward Quran and our Creator is different when we only read the ayah in the Quran.
For me, I have chosen Surah Al-Fath because my usrah also ask us to memorize this surah. One of the main thing that I got from this task is our lifestyle had changed as my favourite quote is “Biasakan yang betul, betulkan yang biasa” and this task had changed me in few aspects such as how I manage my time to study, be a committee in a programme, and allocated a special time to ibadah. At first, I thought the only reason that this task was given is only to be familiar with Surah, but I got more than that.
This parenting class also give another perspective about how to manage ourselves first before got married. Everything starts with ourselves first. As a person who do not married yet, I cannot describe what marriage looks like. It is very different from the drama shown in the television, and even love story in the novel.
Madam Norhayati gave a lot of moral values about love relationships, how to be a good partner, how to be a good parent, and a little overview on financial management in a family. Our mass parenting class also give me new knowledge about marriage and financial which for me is very important for all people who want to get married.
Some of my classmates were jealous with us as this class is very relax and enjoy while we are learning something while they need to complete few studies cases about family. But in my opinion, it is not about the assignments, the knowledge is very valuable to us as we cannot get easily from others. Yes, my initial expectations of this class were wrong as I thought that this class is just going to be another class with a lot of syllabus to cover. Thank you so much Madam Norhayati for teaching us. May Allah always bless you and ease with everything you did.
Become a parent is a stage that every human dream. Having a good spouse, obedient children have been one the characteristics of a happy family scribbled in a piece of hope even though their current family is not as good as they expected. Being given an insight of how to get a good spouse and obedient children is good as enough. Thus, having a parenting class in IIUM is as good as preparing oneself in creating a harmonious family. Fate of becoming the love of one life has be written by the Almighty Allah in Luh Mahfuz. Marriage is not an end of bachelorhood but a beginning of something full of excitement which demand a strong heart and good preparation of willingness to sacrifice. Educating children is one of the huge responsibilities of parents. Good parents will educate their children through a means of education which they need to do it themselves. For example, if they want their children to be a knowledgeable human, they need to teach them to fall in love with books as books are the most faithful teacher, friends, and lover. Children will gain knowledge as much as they read. Other than that, when it comes to managing a family one should not neglect the importance of managing their family finance. It seems easy, just manage, but how many people has been unconsciously thrown into abyss due to their negligence. A knowledge of managing finance is important which has been stressed during the class. The knowledge should be given to very parent to be which I learnt during parenting class.
Assalamualaikum, my name is Rozaida Binti Rozali with matric number 1629636. Basically, there are several lessons that I have learn from the parenting class this semester. Firstly, in life there are time when we finally will be married to someone. So, the first component to build a good family is to find a good life partner. In order to get a good partner, we must make sure to be the best version of ourselves first because a good woman is for a good man and the theory of cause and effect did exist in this world that we live. Secondly, to build a long-lasting family bond, love elements must be applied in the house so that it will be lively and harmony. Thirdly, a good financial management is also crucial in order to live a comfortable and life and maintain family bonding. This is because a bad financial condition may become a cause of broken family as in todays world, without money you cannot do anything. Fourthly, if one day we are granted with children, we must implement a right technique to teach our children so that when they grow up, they will become a good human being. Furthermore, one important component that must be nurture within the children since the young ages is the practice of reading and the learning of other languages. This is because, children brain at a young age is just like a sponge and if we teach them something, it will be absorbed so easily by them and this will a give a big benefit in their growing process.
The course is fun. It was quite a ride from the beginning of the semester till this very second. I like how the course was arrangged accordingly to consecutive tiers; from having to care that special someone, to marriage, to conflict in marriage and lastly to having kids. Before taking this course, I'd say I have the thinking being in the marriage world wasn't that much difficult. But as I follow through the course, I realized the world of marriage is full of responsibilities and commitment. It may sounds difficult but it is actually up to you to properly design your family ultimately making it more fun than it should be. As a student coming from this course now, I'd say I've viewed the world very differently than before. It is like I have a duty to seek secured job, to find proper spouse and to plan our family accordingly, all in all for the sake of living a decent life of tomorrow and ahead. (LUQMAN, 1613047)
1610466 What I have learned in the parenting class is unexpected. Initially, I thought the class would teach you how to be a good parents, as the name suggest; Parenting Class. However, it focuses more on elements that must exist in oneself and a lot of storytelling which makes the class more casual. It was a fun ride. From knowing yourself to the exact depiction of reality in marriage and I particularly like the class about being vulnerable. Having learned the reality of life, I realized that good things will take time. It takes more than our utmost effort, but earning them would be victorious. I’ve also come to learn that Madam is a very courageous and adventurous person. I was fun to have shared a class with you.
I personally think that i just get some basic skills on how to be a parent and all and i am honestly not expecting much more than that from this class, but when I attend this class, it pretty much taught me everything that I need to not just be a parent, but to be myself. It is not easy to obtain this kind of knowledge nowadays because there are more of academic-based knowledge and little to no skills knowledge currently. So i hope that this class will be maintained and I also hoped that there is an extension of this class so that people will understand how crucial it is to have knowledge of parenting.
Assalamualaikum. I'm grateful to be in your class. I learned about love and love cannot be forced. We just can plan, but Allah is the best planner. The next class, i learned about the characteristics that people wanted in their partner.It could reflect on me whether i have that kind of characters and need to improve myself to be a better one. I also learned that we should spread the love in order to get the loves. The last two class gave big impact on me about planning on our future life. The class made me think what i want actually with my life and listened on your stories make me realized that life is not easy as i thought. I need to prepare more with knowledge in order to face the future. You also shared with us on stories about the husband take care of his sick wife and i'm realized that i knew his husband not regret after his wife died since he had contributed more when his wife still with him. Thus, we should appreciate people around us before we could not more see them. i was glad to learn how should we become a good parents. Listening to them and be a good one since 85% they react by following us as their role model. The important part is how to teach them reading is a nice class.i love it so much. Alhamdulillah, now i will make sure in every solah to read the doa that you taught us on our second class about to have happy family although i knew before but i do not take care of the important of this doa. Thanks a lot madam. Knowing you is a happy moment for me and you have make me inspired on you.
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i have learned many things related to parenting such as the power of love, fogiveness, importance of toerance. the most important is how to response to the reality that will not meet our expectation in relationship.
Assalamualaikum Madam :),
I do gained many new informations from your parenting class especially in family matters. The most unforgettable information is about the power of being vulnerable. The first time I heard about it, it hits me hard as I am afraid to be different from people. I do take people's perception about me seriously. I always feel insecure to be in public. But after you tell us about the vulnerability, it somehow opens my mind to brave and confident about myself.
There are a lot more informations which would not be enough to post them here. I end this comment with "THANK YOU MADAM"
Assalamualaikum Madam,
from your lectures, I've learned so many things especially on how to prepare myself for future needs. I realize that it is very important to believe in whatever Allah's plan for us. Sometimes, when we were too focus achieving our goals and plans, we tend to forget to put Allah first in everything we do. In searching of desired partners, child, and future life, we have to beutify ourselves first. Beautify here means improving ourselves becoming a better person. This is because our partner is the reflection of ourselves. Last but not least, "The power of vulnerabality" really motivates me to be the best version of myself. Thankyou Madam Hayati for sharing all your experiences and made the parenting class very interesting :')
The most beautiful thing that I get is constantly reciting a surah, Al-waqiah. Allah fulfilled my needs from the ways that I have never imagined it. Besides, I learned to see marriage in different colours. Marriage must be entered with knowledge and preparations. Furthermore, educating children in early age is important to shape their characters in future. It opened my eyes that becoming a parent is not an easy task. I realized that finding a good partner is so much important because he is not only become my soul mate but he will also become a father to my children.
Love,
Nur Farhana binti Mustafa
1621054
In this class, I learned a lot about how to deal with relationship before and after marriage. I remembered well the first story madam told us, such a great illustration of ‘the right one will come at the right time’, that story did inspire me a lot. Then, madam taught us a lot about how to be a good partner, a good parent to children, how to handle problems that occured among family members and finally financial management. Those are such important knowledge for all of us
Assalamualaikum..Hai Madam Norhayati.. So far I learned a lot of things. For example what should I do to be a good daughter good mother and also good Muslimah. I love all the things you shared in class. I also understand what means by good mother what love means. but basically I think for now marriage is something that I'm not ready yet. I'm not good enough yet still have many things to learn and discover. You always give good advice to us. You make us dream what kind of person we want to be, what kind of family we want in future. Love is greatest thing. We learn to love ourselves first before we can love others. Love is passion. Not all people feel the power of love. Lastly, I learned a lot of things from this class and it was such wonderful experience to learn something that in shaa Allah all of us will gone through it.
Assalamualaikum.. Hai Madam Norhayati.. I learned a lot of things in the class. For example how to become a good daughter good future mother and good Muslimah.. Basically all the things you shared give a lot of benefits to us. You teach us to dream about what kind of family we want in future what kind of children we what and also what characteristics of soulmate that we want. There are a lot of things and stories you shared that I had learned such as what it is love actually? what love can do with our life? Love is passion. We need love ourselves first before we can give love to others. I also learned how to manage wealth.
Greetings and salutations. I have learnt so many things from the Parenting class. Of course, the main reason of taking this course is to prepare us to be good parents in the future. So, I'm just going to highlight my three favourite values or lessons that I myself have obtained from the lecture. First and foremost, I realised that it is necessary to have common sense as it is the most essential part in order to deal with other people. In this case, it applies to the case of dealing with our own future kids. That involves our thoughts management. For instance, it is important to look at WHY this and that thing happens instead of HOW this and that thing happens. In other words, having common sense helps us think more rationally, besides stopping us from choosing the wrong decision. Other than that, it also helps us to not be such narrow-minded kind or person. Thus, I hope I will have that much of common sense sooner or later. Secondly, good parents always listen to their kids. It does not matter what the issue is, good parents must always give much attention to the kids. This is to avoid the kids any feelings of being isolated, making them feel like they are losing their reasons to live. I find that giving attention is the most crucial thing ever of being a parent, as I have seen and known some friends and even my own cousin who are the products of broken families. I really feel sorry and always hope not to do the same to my kids like their parents do it to them. Eventually, anything we see with our hearts is something that we learn the most. Some parents only listen and do nothing. To me, as the parents, we should help them to think on how to deal with the problems that they have, even just a little because something is better than nothing. Last but not least, having strictness. Having strictness is necessary, but must be according to situations. Why? Because in some situations, strictness cannot really be applied as it can cause our kids to be rebellious, making them to lose respect to us, and that is why there are many cases of teenagers running away from home. As an example, setting curfews is a good way of being strict, but avoiding them from connecting or interacting with their friends is a huge mistake. They need time with their mates for amusement and additional fun. From that also, it can help them to get more experiences and more knowledge from their friends but in this matter, parents need to always monitor the contents, of course. I have a lot of other things that I learnt from your class, but those three mentioned above are what concern me the most. I hope to be a good parent and a best friend to my kids in the future. To sum up for the whole classes, I love your style of teaching. Thank you and God bless you, Madam :)
Assalamualaikum.
My name is Mohammad Syahiran Bin Mohd Rafi. Matric no. 1624537.
First of all, from what I've learnt from parenting class on this semester, I will list it up according to week by week. For the first week, we were asked for why we want to learn about parenting. Then we were taught about a very beautiful love story of Madam's friend. It's all about fate or 'jodoh'. Whoever we love or no matter how much we love someone, if she/he is not meant for us, she/he will not be married to us. Next, on the following week, we were asked to list up the characteristic that we wanted to have on our future spouse. In the end, no matter how good or how bad our spouse is, try to accept them sincerely regardless of their flaws, their disadvantages, and their disabilities. However, we can change our self to be a better partner in future. With enough support from each other, we will make some ways to a dream. We also were assigned a task to make a journal of Subh congregational prayer throughout this semester. Furthermore, we were taught about the importance of Subh congregational prayer and how it affect our life as a better parents in the future. In the next class, we learnt about 'What is love?' and why we need love in our life. For me, I think that love is everything. Everyone needs love to live a happy life.
Besides, on the other week, we learnt about vulnerable and how vulnerability can affect the relationship in a family and how to cope with it. Just before our mid semester break, we were assigned a task to be an agent of love. We learn on how to be a good child to our parents and how to spread love among our family by doing something that is extraordinary from usual. Then, on the next class, we learn about the characteristic of child that we want to have in future. We learn how to get a child that we have dream of by being such a good parent. Moreover, we learnt about how reading can improve everyone's life. We learn that we should teach and expose our child to reading even in their early ages. Last but not least, we learn about financial management and our dream life.
Everyone have their own dreams. But, do we good in managing our financial? Sometimes we're confused about our needs and wants. There goes our silly mistakes in our life which lead to a lot of debts and problems.
I have learnt that the duty of a wife is to entertain her husband and make him happy. Cooking, cleaning, and mending clothes for the household are just a supplementary duty. It is essential to become an agent of love in our family. When we share the love with our family, the love will become bigger and eventually become contagious. This will influence other members in the family to cherish and give back the love, and thus becoming a more loving person. Also, I have learnt that it is not wrong to become vulnerable. Vulnerability allows people to become truthful to who they are and makes them beautiful. Therefore, despite being imperfect, it is necessary for us to embrace our children’s vulnerability. Every parent is encouraged to raise children to enjoy reading. This is because during childhood, they tend to grasp and acquire knowledge, particularly language, more easily. Furthermore, Allah SWT has command mankind to read, as being mentioned in the Qur'an, surah Al-‘Alaq, verse 1. It is compulsory to have a quest for knowledge as knowledge helps us become closer to Allah SWT. In addition, family budget and money management are among the parent's responsibility. In order to have a healthy financial management, it is important to spend less and save more from what we earn.
Assalamualaikum Madam Norhayati, I am Nur Zahidah Binti Zamri (1622224). I learned many things from your class and one of them is 'Jodoh'. Jodoh is best planned by Allah. We need to understand the meaning completely because it will not disappoint us if we do not get married to the one that we truly love. Besides that, madam have also taught us that married life is not as easy as it seems. Therefore, before we enter the life of marriage, we need to prepare ourselves in order to be a better wife and learn ho to manage our finance as it is very important in our life. Most of the things in this world are materialistic and money is very important in life. Madam also taught us to be vulnerable in a good way as it can help develop our confidence. Other than that, Madam also had change my mind about 'polygamy'. Before this, I could not accept it because to me, it conflicted women's rights. However, after learning about it in your class, I knew that polygamy may not be accepted by all women but it can be done and I need to accept the reality that nowadays the population of women s more than men and thus, polygamy is one of the solutions to help reduce this problem.I also learned how to be a good parent, as you mentioned before a critical period on children is the best time to make them capture another language as they are easy to accept all things, thus I will use those periods to teach them on reading as reading is something that need to developed from small to make it is as a hobby. There be might some challenging will occur during that time, that makes us be more patient. There are many other things that I have learned in your class, but overall to be a good parents and wife, I need to be prepared physically and mentally as married is something that we need to do it together with our husband and knowledge is something that is valuable in all particular things, thus I need to start all the preparation to be a good wife from now. Thank you.
What i have learnt in at least 100 words firstly is the fundamentals of parenting. Some of the basic fundamentals are love and responsibility. There are so many fun stuff and sometimes there are some hard reality i learned from the experience and inspirarion from strangers being shared in the class and i hope to be a good parent in the future. Many moral value i have learned such as to be a positive person and always be ready to face any hurdles in life. I also learned that our spouse is chosen by god and we must pray that we get a good spouse. By bettering ourself first, only then we can help bettering our familiy members. I also learned to be a loving family member and to show my love to my parent more often.
Assalamualaikum madam, my matric number is 1625274. At the first place, I think that our class will be another class just like leadership class where we need to do presentation on topic given by the lecturer. However, when I go through the class, my first expectation was totally wrong. In this class, I learnt a lot of thing, but the most important is, I learnt that, if we want such a kind or good value person to be in our life, we the one that need to be that type of person first. For example, if we want to have a good spouse, we ourselves need to be the one that can be the good spouse. If we want to have the good children, we ourselves also need to be a good child to our parents.
I also realized that marriage is not that easy as we think before, marriage means that we need to face a new phase in our life where many things will change. Marriage not only come with happiness, but also responsibility as a wife or husband and also as a parent. Thank you madam for open our eyes to think about our life in the future.
Let me start my comments with my first impression of this course. At first, I thought that this course offers joyful and happiness until the end but instead after following up with the classes, I feel that this course is a major eye opener for me. In the first class, you ask for us the brothers to perform daily Subuh congregational prayer at the nearest mosque or musolla. The last time I could do back-to-back Subuh prayer at the mosque was like during my SPM years and foundation studies. Then I thought that it should be easy enough for me to do so as I’ve been there before but the reality is far too hard for me to keep the consistency going. Then when my inner thought knocks, “Can I be a good parent in the future if my prayers are not top-notch?”. Looking at my daily schedule also does not represent me as a really good parent as I always stay up late at night playing games, lack of performing good deeds, not pious enough, and other things that not set me as an exemplary to my future children. Teenagers nowadays often sees that marriage is what they want to seek first but your lecture reminds me that there are still much more preparations to make in working towards that phase of life. You have to bear the responsibility to foster your children, to shorten up the gaps with them, organizing family finance, build up an Islamic-based family, I don’t know what the future holds for me, how to cope with family problems, choosing a life partner, until at some point I felt that it is best to keep being single until the end of time so that we could not have to worry on bearing those responsibilities. At the same time, I don’t know whether I can bear the responsibilities in the future or not. During the last class about the husband that taking care of his wife until the end of her coma life, I felt that “Can I be like him? Do I have the strength to witness or to handle all of these?”. More ultimately, “Can I lead them towards Jannah?”. In the end, being a parent is a very hard task for everyone to bear its consequences and requires lots of knowledge on preparing to become one but keep in mind that it is possible for all of us to become the good ones. At my current state it is impossible for me to become one but thanks to you, your teachings and experiences I got to realize it before I could become one and I need to work out on it. And also my apologies that I did not participate enough in your class because I’m a little bit shy to talk in front of the class or to verbally describe something but to make it up I will remember and also will always be indebted to you for the rest of my life. "Pray for us Madam" - Thariq 1621175
Assalamualaikum wbt. Bismillahirrahmanirrahim...
Praise be to Allah, my whole semester 5 was went well. I just want to share my interesting University subject that my friend and I were learned. It was Family management and Parenting. Honestly, this subject was very interesting and good for us to learn.
For the first time I attend the class, my first expression when my lecturer for this subject, Madam Hayati is very sporting, funny, and motherly and I was enjoyed her teaching. For me this parenting class very different from my core subject. This class always motivated me. I don’t know why. This class also make me want to change myself to be a better person now and for the future too.
From this family management and parenting class, I got many things. First, the true person that meant to us is by Allah. We will found the right person when time is arrived. The person that we love, it doesn’t mean that she/he is for us. If she/he is meant for us by Allah, in shaa Allah it will be. Don’t worry. Believe in Allah. Next, my lecturer also teach us for be the the good wife and husband in future. Actually, to live happily, the husband and wife must complete each other, understand each other, accept the good and bad thing in each other and always help each other when in difficulties.
Besides, from this class also, my lecturer was teach us how to teach our future children to enjoy in reading. For me, it is really important to teach our children to interest in reading. We must teach them to read in early of their age. The interested story book is actually good for the children. It will make them to more interesting in reading and make them more confident in their future life. Furthermore, teach the children speaking English and know the English word in early age also important.
Hence, for me this Family Management and Parenting subject is very important and good for university student to make a better parent in future. I want to thanked to my lecturer because teach us for this subject in enjoyable way. In shaAllah I will never forget what you had teach to me and my friend because it is very valuable for our future. Thank you madam !!
NURHIDAYAH BT ARIFIN
Along the class, ive learnt a lot of thing that ive never really thought of. Many of youngsters like me only ever think about the fun part of being married and the excitement of having cute mini -me. Often, too high expectations are put in the partner and also the kids when we are nothing close to the benchmark we are setting. Now, I believed that to get the traits that I want in my husband and kids, I need have that first. Being in your class is really an eye opener for me on what to expect in the future. The best part is that you did balanced the lesson on husband and wife’s relationship as well as the kids’ needs. The session ive cherished the most is when you told us about your life journey, your struggle and your private life as well. Thank you for being so passionate in each of the class (I can see it from your eyes:P). I prayed that ill be a good parent in the future, and if I do inshaa allah, ill pray for you to get all the pahala you deserved for being one of the cause why, inshaa allah��
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Fathini Aqilah Bt Adnan
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Parenting class
I learn a lot from this particular class. There is one topic madam discuss in class that grab my attention and give impact to me which is raising children to enjoy reading. As we all know that reading is one of the best way for children to learn and gain knowledge. It also helps kids learn how to speak and language. Nowadays, kids love to play with games in the gadgets instead of reading. For them, videos and games in the apps are more interesting than reading. They might have problems to capture and understand words if they are not encourage to read. Parent must encourage kids to read since they are small so that they used to the environment and make read as one of their hobbies. Encourage them to read as many as they playing games. This topic also make me realize the importance of reading. I used to read a lot when I am young. However, as I get older, I spend lots of time with gadgets scrolling the media social and watching dramas therefore I did not read much. I become a person that lack of general knowledge and vocabulary. How I want to be a parent that encourage her children to read if I did not read myself, right? I hope that I will read more and enjoy it more than social media and I hope that I can be a good parent to my kids. Thank you madam for everything :).
I started to realize that it is extremely essential for our future children on early exposure on reading activity since their golden age (aka below than 3 years). They, the child during this age, are like sponge, in which they are able to absorb easily new things such as simple new words, simple new language, simple new term as well as ready to take and learn something new. If the kids does not get an early exposure at early stage, later on, when they grow up, they would probably detest reading activity to the fullest. The worst scenario is when they start to hate when the books are in their sight. Thus, it will make they tend to avoid books every single time. The worst is, they solely started to read only when being forcefully asked by. I indeed do realize that nowadays, not much bookworms we can see among children. Not to put all lame on the parents, as most of books are quite costly. Most of them are above rm10. To get them hype about the books aka reading activity, they need to started with easy stage first, in accordance with their ages. Less wordy, less phrase, more color, more picture first, not straightly bombarded them with one paragraph essay. Such content will put the burden on their shoulder so that it is better for them to avoid reading at all cost. they would bear in their mind that reading is extremely hard and thus, their love towards books are rapidly faded form time to times.
بسم الله الرحمن اارحيم
الحمدالله
I’m grateful to be in this class with Madam Norhayati as our instructor. During the first class, Madam already gave a task to all the students. For brothers, they need to perform subuh prayer congregational at masjid while for sisters, we need to choose a surah from Quran and be familiar with that surah and memorize if possible. The best is when we know the meaning of the surah because when we taddabur a surah, the feelings toward Quran and our Creator is different when we only read the ayah in the Quran.
For me, I have chosen Surah Al-Fath because my usrah also ask us to memorize this surah. One of the main thing that I got from this task is our lifestyle had changed as my favourite quote is “Biasakan yang betul, betulkan yang biasa” and this task had changed me in few aspects such as how I manage my time to study, be a committee in a programme, and allocated a special time to ibadah. At first, I thought the only reason that this task was given is only to be familiar with Surah, but I got more than that.
This parenting class also give another perspective about how to manage ourselves first before got married. Everything starts with ourselves first. As a person who do not married yet, I cannot describe what marriage looks like. It is very different from the drama shown in the television, and even love story in the novel.
Madam Norhayati gave a lot of moral values about love relationships, how to be a good partner, how to be a good parent, and a little overview on financial management in a family. Our mass parenting class also give me new knowledge about marriage and financial which for me is very important for all people who want to get married.
Some of my classmates were jealous with us as this class is very relax and enjoy while we are learning something while they need to complete few studies cases about family. But in my opinion, it is not about the assignments, the knowledge is very valuable to us as we cannot get easily from others. Yes, my initial expectations of this class were wrong as I thought that this class is just going to be another class with a lot of syllabus to cover. Thank you so much Madam Norhayati for teaching us. May Allah always bless you and ease with everything you did.
Sincerely,
1625942
Become a parent is a stage that every human dream. Having a good spouse, obedient children have been one the characteristics of a happy family scribbled in a piece of hope even though their current family is not as good as they expected. Being given an insight of how to get a good spouse and obedient children is good as enough. Thus, having a parenting class in IIUM is as good as preparing oneself in creating a harmonious family. Fate of becoming the love of one life has be written by the Almighty Allah in Luh Mahfuz. Marriage is not an end of bachelorhood but a beginning of something full of excitement which demand a strong heart and good preparation of willingness to sacrifice. Educating children is one of the huge responsibilities of parents. Good parents will educate their children through a means of education which they need to do it themselves. For example, if they want their children to be a knowledgeable human, they need to teach them to fall in love with books as books are the most faithful teacher, friends, and lover. Children will gain knowledge as much as they read. Other than that, when it comes to managing a family one should not neglect the importance of managing their family finance. It seems easy, just manage, but how many people has been unconsciously thrown into abyss due to their negligence. A knowledge of managing finance is important which has been stressed during the class. The knowledge should be given to very parent to be which I learnt during parenting class.
Assalamualaikum, my name is Rozaida Binti Rozali with matric number 1629636. Basically, there are several lessons that I have learn from the parenting class this semester. Firstly, in life there are time when we finally will be married to someone. So, the first component to build a good family is to find a good life partner. In order to get a good partner, we must make sure to be the best version of ourselves first because a good woman is for a good man and the theory of cause and effect did exist in this world that we live. Secondly, to build a long-lasting family bond, love elements must be applied in the house so that it will be lively and harmony. Thirdly, a good financial management is also crucial in order to live a comfortable and life and maintain family bonding. This is because a bad financial condition may become a cause of broken family as in todays world, without money you cannot do anything. Fourthly, if one day we are granted with children, we must implement a right technique to teach our children so that when they grow up, they will become a good human being. Furthermore, one important component that must be nurture within the children since the young ages is the practice of reading and the learning of other languages. This is because, children brain at a young age is just like a sponge and if we teach them something, it will be absorbed so easily by them and this will a give a big benefit in their growing process.
The course is fun. It was quite a ride from the beginning of the semester till this very second. I like how the course was arrangged accordingly to consecutive tiers; from having to care that special someone, to marriage, to conflict in marriage and lastly to having kids. Before taking this course, I'd say I have the thinking being in the marriage world wasn't that much difficult. But as I follow through the course, I realized the world of marriage is full of responsibilities and commitment. It may sounds difficult but it is actually up to you to properly design your family ultimately making it more fun than it should be. As a student coming from this course now, I'd say I've viewed the world very differently than before. It is like I have a duty to seek secured job, to find proper spouse and to plan our family accordingly, all in all for the sake of living a decent life of tomorrow and ahead. (LUQMAN, 1613047)
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What I have learned in the parenting class is unexpected. Initially, I thought the class would teach you how to be a good parents, as the name suggest; Parenting Class. However, it focuses more on elements that must exist in oneself and a lot of storytelling which makes the class more casual. It was a fun ride. From knowing yourself to the exact depiction of reality in marriage and I particularly like the class about being vulnerable.
Having learned the reality of life, I realized that good things will take time. It takes more than our utmost effort, but earning them would be victorious. I’ve also come to learn that Madam is a very courageous and adventurous person. I was fun to have shared a class with you.
I personally think that i just get some basic skills on how to be a parent and all and i am honestly not expecting much more than that from this class, but when I attend this class, it pretty much taught me everything that I need to not just be a parent, but to be myself. It is not easy to obtain this kind of knowledge nowadays because there are more of academic-based knowledge and little to no skills knowledge currently. So i hope that this class will be maintained and I also hoped that there is an extension of this class so that people will understand how crucial it is to have knowledge of parenting.
Assalamualaikum. I'm grateful to be in your class. I learned about love and love cannot be forced. We just can plan, but Allah is the best planner. The next class, i learned about the characteristics that people wanted in their partner.It could reflect on me whether i have that kind of characters and need to improve myself to be a better one. I also learned that we should spread the love in order to get the loves. The last two class gave big impact on me about planning on our future life. The class made me think what i want actually with my life and listened on your stories make me realized that life is not easy as i thought. I need to prepare more with knowledge in order to face the future. You also shared with us on stories about the husband take care of his sick wife and i'm realized that i knew his husband not regret after his wife died since he had contributed more when his wife still with him. Thus, we should appreciate people around us before we could not more see them. i was glad to learn how should we become a good parents. Listening to them and be a good one since 85% they react by following us as their role model. The important part is how to teach them reading is a nice class.i love it so much. Alhamdulillah, now i will make sure in every solah to read the doa that you taught us on our second class about to have happy family although i knew before but i do not take care of the important of this doa. Thanks a lot madam. Knowing you is a happy moment for me and you have make me inspired on you.
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