Friday, January 15, 2010

What is marriage?

Assalamualaikum..

Dear students,

We met again for the second time. I thought you guys wont turn up.Instead the attendance was full house! A whopping 52 of you. Hehehe..let us see whether we can maintain that!

Hem...our topic that night was mostly on "What is marriage?"You still remember "mithaqan Ghalidan?" which means, a serious covenant (agreement) that should not be taken lightly. It is a legal agreement between man and woman through which both sides enjoy the rights and obligations as husband and wife.
Then, we also discussed the criteria in choosing spouses. Religion or Faith has always been the top priority followed by financial competence, compatibility, loving and beauty. She doesnt have to be as beautiful as Maya Karin -if you consider her as beautiful (well I think she is)or as charming as Robert Redford (him again?).Hem...lets see...do we have a Malay good looking man as an example?Hem...I dont know any except for Rosyam Nor (Sorry!).But again, beauty is truly in the eyes of the beholder. At the end of the day, beauty is also only skin deep. Do you agree? As a future wife, you want someone whom you can respect, be a good leader, guide you and your children to the right path as stipulated in the Quran.
I shall end this posting with a few wonderful quotations:

"A great marriage is not when the 'perfect couple' comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences". - Dave Meurer, "Daze of Our Wives"

"A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person".
- Mignon McLaughlin

"Soul-mates are people who bring out the best in you. They are not perfect but are always perfect for you". - Author Unknown


Do you have any other quotes to share? Whether they are your own or taken from other sources, I would surely welcome them. Thank you for taking time to visit this blog. I hope you learn something :-)

54 comments:

Rozila Haizam Gazali said...

Salam...mdm..
"All married couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of making love. Good battle is objective and honest - never vicious or cruel. Good battle is healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principle of equal partnership"
Ann Landers (1918 - 2002)
~Rozila~

Mashitoh(0814644) said...

SUBSET OF LIFE

Together we come to a new life like a probability,
The future that we put into risk,
The journey like a sequence of life,
As we start at one point,
We move to another point,
Approach a point called infinite happiness,
We are trying to reach absolute maximum,
This love I believe is a subset of life that I'm looking for.

Written by:Mashi
Edited by:Madi
Revised by:Mas and Hasna

Fatin Nasuha Binti Sabri (0810254) said...

1) Before you, Bella, my life was like a moonless night. Very dark, but there were stars—points of light and reason… And then you shot across my sky like a meteor. Suddenly everything was on fire; there was brilliancy, there was beauty. When you were gone, when the meteor had fallen over the horizon, everything went black. Nothing had changed, but my eyes were blinded by the light. I couldn’t see the stars anymore. And there was no more reason for anything.
Edward Cullen, New Moon, Chapter 23, p.514
author; Stephenie Meyer.

2) Love is like a friendship caught on fire.
In the beginning a flame, very pretty,
Often hot and fierce,
But still only light and flickering.
As love grows older,
Our hearts mature
And our love becomes as coals,
Deep-burning and unquenchable.
~ by Bruce Lee ~

-Fatin Nasuha Binti Sabri;0810254; ccfm2052k; section 6-

nor shahira (0813810) said...

1.One of the good things that come of a true marriage is, that there is one face on which changes come without your seeing them; or rather there is one face which you can still see the same, through all the shadows which years have gathered upon it.
~George MacDonald

2.More marriages might survive if the partners realized that sometimes the better comes after the worse.
~Doug Larson

Nor Aini Ishak (ccfm2052) said...

"Marriage is a love story between two person who love each other,the beginning of the new life,the time to share anything with their own partner and the started of heavy duty in their life".

Nor Afizah Binti Ahmad (ccfm2052k) said...

1)marriage is not only the beginning of a relationship but also the of a life long search for the other half of our soul.

2)marriage is the mixture of communication, patience, love, sharing, praying to create happiness and prosperity.

safarina said...

good marriage,
full of love,
full of happiness,
full of respect,
between the two heart..

bad marriage
without love,
sadness,
heartless..

islamic way of marriage,
love for the sake of Allah pleasure,
love toward the husband, wife, children..
responsibility toward Allah,
then the family will get happiness in this world and hereafter..

TG.Hasmawi TG.HassaN said...

Marriage is a gift of God,
Marriage is a blessing,
Marriage is an endless love,
We make the best of it.

Marriage is a way of life,
Marriage is so natural,
Marriage is the better way,
For two, to reach Heaven.

-Dr John Celes

whoop-woot said...

I cant think of any quote atm madam
but
your post reminded me of this advert by the late Yasmin Ahmad

FUNERAL

touching ;__;
We'll learn to appreciate.

-Aisyah,Group 30 EOP

farah binti musa said...

1. Never say that marriage has more of joy than pain.
( Euripides (484 BC - 406 BC))

2. Nearly all marriages, even happy ones, are mistakes: in the sense that almost certainly (in a more perfect world, or even with a little more care in this very imperfect one) both partners might be found more suitable mates. But the real soul-mate is the one you are actually married to.
(J. R. R. Tolkien (1892 - 1973), Letter to Michael Tolkien, March 1941)

from farah musa

Anonymous said...

f0r me, marriage is n0t a 'play-play' thing.. marriage is when a pair 0f c0uple made their way t0gether and f0rever till the end..
[jannah]

nadirah din said...

true love is not how you forgive, but how you forget, not what you see but you feel, not how you listen, but how you understand, and not how you let go but how you hold on..

-anonymous-

NurulJannah Zahari (0812896) said...

Importance of giving your spouse room to breathe.

“Any marriage that does not have mutual usefulness as its foundation will be difficult. The word ‘allow’ is very significant in any successful relationship, whether it be between family members, friends, husbands and wives. When we truly love someone, we allow them their own thoughts, interest, and spaces. We give each other room to breathe.

By Dennis Weaver on the secret of their successful marriage.

thuraiya ahmad said...

"Your marriage is a journey, run it with trust and honest."

-Thuraiya Ahmad

za said...

Love requires a willingness to die; marriage, a willingness to live.

-Mignon McLaughlin

riniecomot said...

Marriage is like the depth of the sea..
The more you go down below the sea,
The more you can see how beautiful life of all creatures lies inside it..

Written originally by rinie narinie bt.mohd nasir
0817834

ili aqilah said...

"A happy marriage has in it all the pleasures of friendships, all the enjoyment of sense and reason - and indeed all the sweets of life. - Joseph Addison

normasniza said...

That is what marriage really means: helping one another to reach the full status of being persons,
give fullness of trust,
hold each other hand with full of love and responsible,
and bring happiness together until the end.
-mas(0819732)-

salwa izwani 0817076 said...

THE SACRED LOVE THAT HAS BEEN MADE,
TWO HEARTS BECOME ONE,
PROMISNG TO BE TOGERTHER.
UNTIL THE END OF TIME.

EVENTHROUGHT THE HARD TIMES,
SEEING YOUR FACE MAKES MY HEARTS FEEL BETTER.
YOU'RE MY SHOULDER TO CRY ON.
AND MY SUNSHINE AFTER THE RAIN.

HUBBY, YOU COMPLETE ME,
WIFEY, YOU'RE MY HONEY,
BOTH OF US NEEDS EACH OTHER,
TO LIVE HAPPY HEREAFTER.

fatiah hamzah said...

**The Art Of A Good Marriage
(Wilferd Arlan Peterson)
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created.
In marriage the little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end
with the honeymoon, it should continue through the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice,
but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation
and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience,
understanding and a sense of humour.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow old.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.

husna mustafa said...

"Marriage, ultimately, is the practice of becoming passionate friends." Harville Hendrix

What counts in making a happy marriage
is not so much how compatible you are,
but how you deal with incompatibility.
Leo Tolstoy

"Marriage is an Athenic weaving together of families, of two souls with their individual fates and destinies, of time and eternity --everyday life married to the timeless mysteries of the soul. "
-- Thomas Moore

Anonymous said...

The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
-Robert C. Dodds-

nor saadah saari,0814014,section 6

Khotib Al-Imam(0812505) said...

"Marriage is not just about love, but it is all about trust. Trusting a person will definitely lead you to the happiness, but loving a person may bring you to the darkness. Thus, trust your love only for ALLAH, The Owner of Trust and Love"

Helmi said...

Marriage is the unity of two imperfect souls become one perfect soul which share every single moment of life. Life as couple is
not colorful without love and love is not just 'receiving' but also 'giving'. We love our partner as Adam love Eve, like Muhammad love Khadijah, and also like Romeo sick in love with Juliet...

ct hanisah aziz said...

1)Marriage is like a cage; one sees the birds outside desperate to get in, and those inside desperate to get out. - Montaigne

2)Marriage is one of the hardest things to keep because somewhere in the middle, there will be challenges or barriers may come, but with trust, faith and loyalty..InsyaAllah..everything can be okay...

saidatul syazana said...

One of the good things that come of a true marriage is, that there is one face on which changes come without your seeing them; or rather there is one face which you can still see the same, through all the shadows which years have gathered upon it. ~George MacDonald

What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are, but how you deal with incompatibility. ~George Levinger


Women hope men will change after marriage but they don't; men hope women won't change but they do. ~Bettina Arndt, Private Lives, 1986

Muhammad Mu'izzuddin Mustaffar said...

"mawaddah wa rahmat...towards mardhotillah"

Nurul Syazana Bt Adam said...

1)"There is not one in a hundred of either sex who is not taken in when they marry... it is, of all transactions, the one in which people expect most from others, and are least honest themselves"
[Jane Austen Mansfield Park]

2)"Marriage is like life in this - that it is a field of battle, and not a bed of roses" [Robert Louis Stevenson Virginibus Puerisque]

Nurul Syazana Bt Adam (CCFM2052K)

Nor Aliaa said...

The Holy Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

“Nikah (marriage) is my Sunna. He who shuns my Sunna is not of me.”

( Marriage quotation from Muslim)

nur farahin mohd haris said...

Marriage is not a noun; it's a verb. It isn't something you get. It's something you do. It's the way you love your partner every day.

-Barbara de Angelis

Before marriage, a man declares that he would lay down his life to serve you; after marriage, he won't even lay down his newspaper to talk to you.
-Helen Rowland

NurulJannah Zahari (0812896) said...

“A woman who possesses all the qualities will quite naturally not have any problem in fulfilling her obligations towards her family and quite obviously keep everybody in the family happy and satisfied.A house in which such a woman dwells is always prosperous and full of comforts and luxuries.”
Atharva Veda quotes

Zainariza 0816614 said...

"Marriage is a one thing that everyone will face it..It can be a very meaningful and wonderful story in our life if there are LOVE..TRUST..UNDERSTANDING..& HONEST"

fatiah hamzah (0810768) said...

**The Art Of A Good Marriage**
(Wilferd Arlan Peterson)

Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created.
In marriage the little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end
with the honeymoon, it should continue through the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice,
but in the spirit of joy. It is speaking words of appreciation
and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience,
understanding and a sense of humour.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow old.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.

Nurul Ain said...

"More marriages might survive if the partners realized that sometimes the better comes after the worse.”

A successful marriage depends on two things:
1) finding the right person and
2) being the right person”

0819176

nazirah said...

I didn't marry you because you were perfect.
I didn't even marry you because I loved you.
I married you because you gave me a promise.
That promise made up for your faults.
And the promise I gave you made up for mine.
Two imperfect people got married and it was the promise that made the marrigae.
And when our children were growing up, it wasn't a house that protected them; and it wasn't our love that protected them - it was that promise.

Thornton Wilder

A good marriage is the union of two good forgivers.

Ruth Bell Graham

p/s:i hope u all will love this quote as much as i am...twink..;p

syahida said...

The secret to having a good marriage is to understand that mariage must be total, it must be permanent and it must be equal.
Frank Pittman

hanafi said...

Never get married in the morning, because you never know who you'll meet that night. ~Paul Hornung

Khairul Anuar Bin Husin(0816531) said...

1.A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.
~Mignon McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic's Notebook, 1966...

2.One of the good things that come of a true marriage is, that there is one face on which changes come without your seeing them; or rather there is one face which you can still see the same, through all the shadows which years have gathered upon it.
~George MacDonald

NOR JUNAIDAH BT AHMAD JUNID(0817012) said...

Marriage where we can discover the true meaning of love,needs strong faith and "taqwa" through patient and "redha"..

Zariah Lokman said...

A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.

~Ruth Bell Graham

hanisah said...

“Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love, and they blossom when we love the ones we marry.”
by Tom Mullen

"A good marriage is one which allows for change and growth in the individuals and in the way they express their love."
by Pearl S. Buck

-Hanisah bt Abd Aziz-ccfm2052k

0817754 said...

Salam...
i don't know how to say..but deep in my heart..marriage is something that require lots of commitment and sacrifice, plus the life that is very different from what we had live before, "things-to-do" that needed permission by our couple and lots more things which require two heads work together..and sometimes, it make me think of not to get

Imtinan Baharudin (0816448_ said...

I have 3 quotations that I think can answer ur question , "WHAT IS MARRIAGE?"

It is probably not love that makes the world go around, but rather those mutually supportive alliances through which partners recognize their dependence on each other for the achievement of shared and private goals."

Fred Allen

"The more you invest in a marriage, the more valuable it becomes."

"Women impure are for men impure, and men impure for women impure and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity: these are not affected by what people say: for them there is forgiveness, and a provision honourable (an nur : 26)"


FULL OF LOVE
~IMTINAN BINTI BAHARUDIN~

Saiful said...

As we all know tat marriage is a very wonderful thing in our life. everyone wants to have their life partner. But marriage is not as easy as ABC as we all thought. A lot of things need to do.
But, most of us think marriage is really easy. if u love somebody u can marry him or her. that is totally a wrong concept. we should also think about our future, when we have a children especially little baby. a lot of money that we have 2 spend especially to buy diapers and also milk. (^.^)

khairulanwar darman.0813919 said...

hye madam.
marriage is ending bachelors life..it is scary because u neeed to share everything with ur partner for the rest of ur life..to be frank, in a real relationship,isnt like in a fairytale..if u think that for the next 40 years, everytime u see each other u r gonna glow or everytime u hold hands, therell be electricity..i think u r kidding urself..

anwar

shukri-0815115 said...

marriage is like a football..sometimes u r happy living together sometimes u r not..
by - jose mourinho

marriage is interesting for me,but i dont think to marriage at early age,because i have to acomplish my mission..

DILAILA_ 0815352 said...

Marriages are always moving from one season to another. Sometimes we find ourselves in winter--discouraged, detached, and dissatisfied; other times we experience springtime, with its openness, hope, and anticipation. On still other occasions we bask in the warmth of summer--comfortable, relaxed, enjoying life. And then comes fall with its uncertainty, negligence, and apprehension. The cycle repeats itself many times throughout the life of a marriage, just as the seasons repeat themselves in nature.
GARY D. CHAPMAN, note to readers, Summer Breeze

Hamizah Mhd Najili, CCFM 2052K said...

“To be happy with a man you must understand him a lot and love him a little. To be happy with a woman you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all.”

By Helen Rowland

Nur Hazlinda Ahmad said...

"Marriage is more than the entanglement of two hearts, it is the entwining of two lives, forever."

"The perfect marriage begins when each partner believes they got better than they deserve."

remy 0816893 said...

"A happy man marries the girl he loves; a happier man loves the girl he
marries."

we should marry the girl that we love,,,,not the materialistics type...remember!!!

amin0818077 said...

marriage is a bond between
man and women to build a constituional..

a bond to be last 4eva based on truth and feelings..

nor atiqah said...

Holy Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w.) says, "No house has been built in Islam more beloved in the sight of Allah than through marriage."

On another occasion Holy Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w.) said: "The best people of my nation (Ummat) are those who get married and have chosen their wives, and the worst people of my nation are those who have kept away from marriage and are passing their lives as bachelors."

0816532 NOR ATIQAH ROZLIN

a'fifah happas(0812064) said...

salam madam.. i remembered i posted before but it does not come out.. its ok .. i still can comment rite?
herm.. once my sister told me.. "fah, love is blind. marriege? marriege is a real eye opener then.."
hehe.. my smart sister.. :)

Anonymous said...

marriage is not about perfection between spouse..but it is more likely the complementary between both
the differences and similarities make both to be compatible....
marriage need the partners to be give and take...need to share...etc
what we should think is that the spouse that we have in this world is the best given by ALLAH...